Tradition 7- A CoDA group ought to be fully self-supporting, declining outside contributions.
Affirmations are a tool in recovery, nurturing statements we make to ourselves. We use them as a means to start building ourselves up from the inside. The following includes a list of possible affirmations and some great affirmation guidance tools. As we grow, we learn to take the negative messages we tell ourselves about us and our lives, and turn them into positive self affirming growing statements. We let them nurture us from the inside and assist our recoveries, coming to believe them through a slow committed process. We welcome you and all members to send in any wonderful nurturing statements that are helping you on your journey, and share them with us as a group. Please include in your message if you'd like to keep it anonymous,
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I can face my fears & work to overcome them
I can trust my thoughts & emotions
I feel my feelings for me
I can be vulnerable with someone I trust.
I forgive myself for accepting sex when I wanted love.
I make decisions confidently for me
I am kind, loving and gentle to me for me
I open my heart to my inner child
I acknowledge my needs
I am peaceful and loving
I am joyful
I will seek out friends today
I am a friendly person
I am a good listener
I feel good about myself for me
I express my feelings for me
I make wise choices for me
I treat myself with kindness & patience
I am in charge of my life
I forgive myself & others who have hurt me
I am a friend to myself
I can express my anger openly, honestly & appropriately
I can handle criticism with ease
Today I will put all negativity behind me
I acknowledge my needs
I allow God to enter my life today
I trust in the serenity my God provides
I have a new awareness in my life
10 Steps to Loving Yourself
1. Stop all criticism.
Criticism never changes a thing. Refuse to criticize yourself. Accept yourself exactly as you are. Everybody changes. When you criticize yourself, your changes are negative. When you approve of yourself, your changes are always positive.
2. Don't scare yourself.
Stop terrorizing yourself with your thoughts. It's a dreadful way to live. Find a mental image that gives you pleasure (like yellow roses or a waterfall), and immediately switch your scary thought to a pleasure thought.
3. Be gentle and kind and patient.
Be gentle with yourself. Be kind to yourself. Be patient with yourself as you learn new ways of thinking. Treat yourself as you would someone you really loved.
4. Be kind to your mind.
Self hatred is only hating your own thoughts. Don't hate yourself for having the thoughts. Gently change your thoughts.
5. Praise yourself.
Criticism breaks down the inner spirit. Praise builds it up. Praise yourself as much as you can. Tell yourself how well you are doing with every little thing. Remember that recovery is a process; sometimes you will falter, slip into old, unhealthy behaviors, or fall back into self-destructive patterns. Don't give up and don't beat yourself up! Instead, remind yourself that the learning curve is never straight, and then get back on the right track. There is a difference between "slipping up" and being a failure!
6. Support yourself.
Find ways to support yourself. Reach out to friends and allow them to help you. It is being strong to ask for help when you need it most.
7. Be loving to your negatives.
Acknowledge that you created them to fulfill a need. Now you are finding new positive ways to fulfill those needs. So, lovingly release the old negative patterns.
8. Take care of your body.
Learn about nutrition. What kind of fuel does your body need to have optimum energy and vitality? Learn about exercise. What kind of exercise can you enjoy? Cherish and revere the temple you live in.
9. Mirror work.
Look into your eyes often. Express this growing sense of love you have for yourself. Forgive yourself while looking into the mirror. At least once a day say, "I love you, I really love you!"
10. DO IT NOW!!
Don't wait until you get well, or lose the weight, or get the new job or the new relationship. Begin now-- and do the best you can!
I am a child of God.
I deserve love, peace, and prosperity for me.
I am not alone.
I am one with God and the universe.
I am a good person to me for me.
I am loved and I deserve love.
I have many talents.
I am not a victim.
I will be who I am, and I am enough.
I am worthy and good to me for me.
I am a loving person, I am a strong, capable person.
I respect myself and I deserve respect from others.
I set my boundaries for me.
I respect mine and others' boundaries for me.
The pain that I feel by remembering cannot be any worse than the pain that I feel by knowing and not remembering.
I take full charge of my life today, I let serenity flow into my life.
I feel appreciated today and I can give to others with no strings attached.
I can meet new opportunities without fear.
I will not be intimidated for me.
Today I view my childhood without shame.
Today I have confidence.
Today I will rejoice in my abilities.
I allow God to enter my life today.
I trust in the serenity my God provides,
I am calm and tranquil.
I can be playful